Dating Safety

Velvetpark Dating Safety Tips:

1) For your personal safety, guard your identity online.

  • Don't share your real name, personal phone numbers, or other identifying information while chatting, PMing or commenting, until you are comfortable doing so.

2) Never post personal contact information in your profile. You never know who maybe lurking online.

  • Do not include your real name or city of residence in your profile or in your user name.

3) Remain anonymous until you feel safe and ready to explore other options.

  • Remember, if a person provides his or her phone number early in the email exchange, that doesn't obligate you to use it.

4) Always use a third party, anonymous email address or use Velvetpark’s Private Message service.

  • Make sure you turn off signatures or identifying information in your email.

5) Use a current picture and be truthful in your description of yourself.

  • Misleading photos or descriptions can result in misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
  • Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.

6) Trust your instincts, especially if something or someone seems "off."

  • Listen to your gut and pay careful attention to any "red flags" that come up in communicating with potential dates.
  • If you feel unsure or threatened in any way, cut off correspondence.

7) Flag/Report users who demonstrate abusive or harassing behavior, or who seem to be misrepresenting who they are. View our community guidelines for more information:

8.) Be wary of someone who is consistently vague, talks in circles, or answers questions with other questions.

  • These are signs that someone is not being entirely honest about their intentions.
  • Likewise, these are good examples of those "red flags" to stay on the alert for.

9) Keep a record of your conversations.

  • Save your PMs and chats for future reference.
  • Velvetpark does not retain copies of your correspondence, so be sure keep your own electronic paper trail.

10) Get as many details as possible about the other person BEFORE meeting off-line.

  • Share some of those details with a friend or family member.
  • Keep in mind, Velvetpark does not require our members to submit to background checks.
  • We recommend that you do your own research on potential dates and mates.

11) Always proceed with caution.

  • If someone pledges his or her undying love after a first meeting, beware!

12) Guard your financial information and beware of solicitation.

  • Our Terms of Use strictly prohibits the use of this service for solicitation.
  • Report invitations to join other singles sites, emails about modeling opportunities or attempts to sell any merchandise or service.

First Dates:

1) ALWAYS meet in public. NEVER meet in a private home or in a remote location.

2) DO tell a friend or family member where you are meeting and going.

  • Let your date know the meeting is not a secret.
  • Contact your friend or family member before and after the date or ask your friend to contact you at a predetermined time.
  • Also, consider taking a friend with you when you meet your date for the first time, even if they only stay for the first ten minutes to ascertain your safety.
  • Consider meeting your date for the first time in a group for added safety.

3) DON'T ask the other person to pick you up.

  • Get yourself to and from the date under your own steam, or ask a friend for a ride there and home.

4) Stay sober.

  • Refrain from drinking or partying excessively, as this could impair your ability to make safe and sound judgments.

5) DON'T leave personal belongings (purses, wallets) or drinks unattended.

  • Don't risk having your personal identity stolen.
  • If you must leave your drink unattended to go to the restroom, discard it and order another when you return.

6) DON'T succumb to the temptation to take first dates to your home (or to go to his/her home).

  • Stay in a public place, even if you are pressured.
  • If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.
  • If you are followed to where you parked your car, stop and hail a taxi or go into another public place to phone a friend to pick you up.

7) Make a next date only if you are ready and feel comfortable.

  • Continue to follow all of the above safety recommendations on subsequent meetings until you feel confident enough with your new friend to explore other options.

Long Distance First Meetings:

1) Use your best judgment and plan to stay in a hotel if it's your first time meeting in person.

  • Do not stay at the other person's home on your first face-to-face visit.
  • In addition to presenting safety concerns, staying at the other person's home puts a great deal of pressure (and sometimes, expectation) on a new association.
  • Remember: it's helpful when first getting acquainted in person for both people to be able to have some time apart to process their experience as individuals, either alone or with friends/family.

2) Use taxis to get to and from the airport.

  • DO NOT get into a personal vehicle with someone who you are meeting for the first time.
  • Keep your hotel location private until you are completely certain of the person's intentions and feel comfortable.

3) Keep family and friends posted.

  • Let your date know that your whereabouts are known to your friends and family.

Velvetpark Mate is a service which has been designed to help you explore potential love interests as well as to make new friends, but we also want you to be safe out there! If we could send one of the Fairy Gaymothers as your chaperone with you we would. Since we can’t, ultimately, your safety and security lies in your own hands. Stay alert and be careful!